September 9, 2011 by Heather
As I mentioned in my previous post, the lofty (unrealistic?) expectations of women have been on my mind a lot. I decided to write them down as they popped into my head, and came up with quite a list over a period of a few days. I paid attention to the expectations I felt like I was dealing with personally, as well as the ones a lot of my friends are facing. Many of the expectations contradict themselves, which just goes to show that maybe we can’t have it all. I hope no feminist groups come beat me up in the middle of the night for saying that. I am just being honest and realistic. We need to cut ourselves a little slack.
This is by no means a full list of all the “should and should-nots” out there. There is not enough bandwidth to hold a list like that, am I right ladies? So feel free to speak up and add to this list. In fact, please do. That way I don’t feel so weird about thinking all of these things. It should also be noted that these are not things I think women ought to do. They are simply things that myself and others sometimes feel pressured to do or not to do. In no particular order of importance, here goes.
- Don’t expose your insecurities, because insecurity = weakness.
- Be thin and toned, your muffin top is in fact not all that.
- Go to college, get a big girl job, climb the ladder of success.
- Don’t be needy.
- Have babies, lose the baby weight. Fast.
- Keep the house clean.
- Have lots of sex and like it every time. Great Sexpectations?
- Dress nice, keep up with the trends.
- Know how to cook, even better if you can cook like his mama.
- Keep up with the kids, the husband, and yourself.. in pearls and lipstick.
- Be confident (see #1).
- Keep those legs, armpits, bikini line, and upper lip shaved and smooth. Yes, I have a lady stache.
- Get married and seamlessly fall into your role as trophy wife.
- Don’t dwell on how you look, but still look good.
- Proverbs 31 woman, anyone?
- Know who you are.
- Have hobbies and passions, and they better not be shallow (make-up and magazines? come on.)
- Do a man’s job, but get paid less.
- Stand still, look pretty.
- Don’t settle for being just a stay at home mom.
- Be ambitious and driven to succeed.
- Don’t let your life revolve around a man, or a house full of cats.
- Go! See the world!
- Stay! Put down roots!
- Like salad.
- Get control of your emotions.
- Contribute to the checking account, not the well being of your man.
- Don’t use your period as an excuse.
- Have a child by 35. You don’t want breast cancer, do ya?
- Endure the spanx and the lacy underthings, even if they make you want to jump off a building.