things you just don’t say to a pregnant woman


April 30, 2012 by Heather

“Oh, bless your heart, you look miserable!”    I may be uncomfortable, yes.  I may not feel 100%, and I may be waddling my way through Walmart with swollen feet.  But by golly I am growing a freaking miracle inside of me, and I am beyond blessed to get to experience it.  So please do not tell me I look miserable, because even though I might not feel so great, this is one of the coolest things ever.  (It’s sort of the non-pregnant equivalent of someone asking if you’re sick, even when you feel perfectly fine.  It’s like, do I look that bad?)

“How much longer have you got?”    I understand what you mean when you ask this.  You are wondering when I am due, correct?  Because I am really close to answering you like this:  “Are you referring to my terminal illness or my pregnancy?”

“You sure there’s just one in there?”    You know, I’m not.  Do you think you could take a look for me?  Great, thanks.  YES I’M SURE THERE’S JUST ONE YOU MORON.

“Giving birth is the closest to death that the human body can get without actually dying.”    That is just fantastic.  Thank you for that incredible insight.  Go away.

“Wow!  That’s gonna be a big baby!”    You know what?  Shut up.  And how do you know, anyway?  Are you somehow able to determine the weight of things with your beady little eyes?  And, by the way, what are you growing in your belly?

“Catch up on your sleep while you can!”    I got a C in Psychology, but I’m pretty sure you can’t catch up on sleep that you haven’t even lost yet.  I could be wrong though.

“Have they checked to see if you’re dilated yet?  Just wait – it feels like they’re checking your tonsils.”    Even though I was a little alarmed to hear this in the grocery store check out line, turns out a more accurate description has never been uttered.

“Your life will never be the same.”    This one really bothers me, like, a lot.  I think I could write an entire post about how it makes me feel to hear this as someone’s parenting “advice.”  Something about it just screams, Enjoy life while you still can!  Maybe I’m taking it in the completely negative sense, but that is how people make it sound.  It makes me so sad.  It’s like when people call a wedding a funeral, or refer to a groom’s bride-to-be as the ol’ ball and chain.  If you can’t say something nice, just go away.  And if you do mean this statement in a positive way, then follow it with something encouraging.

Here are some things you should say to a pregnant woman (and make darn sure she is actually pregnant before doing so):

“You look wonderful!”

“When are you due?”

“Oh, what a beautiful bump!”

“What are you having?”

“You’ve certainly got that glow!”

“Here, let me pay for your groceries!”   (a girl can dream)

“You will be an amazing mother.”

“Would you like a foot rub, dear?”

Have a bumpin' Monday.


5 thoughts on “things you just don’t say to a pregnant woman

  1. Sarah says:

    lol @ terminal illness…people lose any sense of decency when it comes to pregnancy. because when they ask you when you’re due, they’re also asking when you had wild sexy sex to conceive such a HUGE baby! 😉

  2. When I say “Your life will never be the same” I mean it as “This amazing/incredible thing is about to turn your life upside down and you’ll love every minute of it.” or “You’ll wonder how you never had a baby before”…but I’ve heard it as “Live it up now because you’ll never get to later.” People just don’t get the love of pregnancy anymore :-/

  3. jami says:

    This is awesome! I haven’t gotten many of these ones yet but plenty of the- are you sure there’s just one in there question that I love so much…. Also “push hard”… that was kind of weird!

  4. […] I was a few weeks away from having Parker, I wrote this post detailing some of the more annoying comments people had made in regards to my pregnant state.  […]

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s


Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

My Gravatar, which I’m not sure exactly what that even is.

%d bloggers like this: